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To be prepared for obstacles is to remain cheerful under all circumstances.
Projection:
Generally there is always a wish not to have to face any obstacles. When we begin something new we usually have a thought to have things going perfectly well. So when obstacles do come we are not prepared and we experience dissatisfaction and sorrow.
Solution:
Whenever we start something new we need to prepare our mind that we are sure to be faced with obstacles. Along with it we also need to understand that these obstacles actually teach us something new and it is only with such situations we can learn and progress. When we
have such thoughts we will be able to remain cheerful under all circumstances.To have knowledge in the intellect is to be constantly cheerful.
Projection:
When something negative happens, we find that there are only negative or waste thoughts about the situation or people. We try hard not to think about it but we find only those thoughts coming to our mind. With such thoughts the situation seems worse than it is and we find it difficult to remain cheerful.
Solution:
In such situations instead of trying to cut out waste we need to give ourselves something positive to think about. When the intellect is busy thinking about the positive, there'll be no room for negativity. In this way we will be able to remain constantly cheerful even in the most negative situations.
Where there is humility there is the give and take of love.
Projection:
Usually we don't even know when we are working with our ego because it is deeply concealed. Even when someone points out our ego, we don't want to accept it and we continue to work with it. Ego finishes the ability to learn and negatively effects our relationships because there is no give and take of love.
Solution:
The method to overcome ego is to develop humility. Humility means to be strong within yet to be gentle and flexible. This enables us to bend i.e., to bow. When we bow it doesn't mean we are defeated, but it reveals our own victory. It is only when we bend and forgive will we be able to allow the flow of love in relationships.
To say yes is to have regard for all.
Projection:
When someone expects us to do something that we don't like our usual reaction is to say no and give reasons why we don't want to do it or why we don't agree with what the other person is saying. But it usually happens that once we say no, the other person is no longer able to listen to what we have to say.
Solution:
Instead of saying 'no', we need to practice saying 'yes'. To say yes means to try to understand what the other person is saying. Only after that can we put forth our argument. And then the other
person will also give regard to our opinion. This practice will enable us to get good wishes from others and increase our chance for success.
Our words are effective only when we combine them with pure thoughts and inspirational actions.
Projection:
As soon as we find someone's mistake it is natural for us to give correction through our words. We tend to explain to others using a lot of words. Yet we find that inspite of saying the right thing we
are not being listened to and our words are just wasted away. We don't understand at such times where the problem lies.
Solution:
To enable our corrections to others to be effective, we have to combine our thoughts, words and actions. There need to be good wishes in our thoughts which also brings sweetness in our words. We also need to take care that we are putting into action all that we are talking. When we do this we will find that our words are really effective.To celebrate means to finish all trace of the old.
Projection
We find that whenever there is an occasion, we are full of zeal and enthusiasm for that day. However this doesn't continue for long and we find ourselves getting caught with our old nature. We then give the excuse to ourselves saying, 'this is how we are, and this is our nature' etc. Once we start working with our old nature we cannot be enthusiastic anymore.
Solution
Each new festival is an occasion for us to finish something of the old. We only need to take a determined thought to remove something of our old nature. We no longer need to give excuses, but make the firm promise to ourselves to transform. Our zeal and enthusiasm will then never lessen and we will continue to celebrate with constant enthusiasm.
Faith enables one to bring solutions to problems.
Projection:When problems come, we tend to overreact to it or exaggerate it to such an extent that it becomes a trap for us. Instead of working on the problem we fall a prey to it making all our thoughts negative. Once we are caught up in negativity we will neither look for, nor find solutions.
Solution:Each thought of ours is important when working on a problem. Instead of making our thoughts negative, we need to remind ourselves that what we are going through is a test which we must
pass with honour. When we have this thought, all our energy will be focussed on working to bring a solution.
To be a donor means to give at each step and increase one's own stock.
Projection:
Usually it seems very difficult to be a donor - to give from whatever resources we have. The thought often arises in the mind that we cannot give because we are ourselves not complete or full. We find ourselves constantly trying to fill ourselves and we then have no time or thought for giving to those around us.
Solution:
We have a lot of treasures within us which we can give to those around us, our virtues, our specialities etc. Even if we have just a little and give to the others, we will find ourselves benefitting. For having given from whatever we have, we find that these treasures begin to increase within ourselves too.
To be seated on the seat of self-respect is to use virtues in life.
Projection:
It usually seems very difficult to use the virtues within us when the people around are not doing so. At such times using negativity seems much easier. In spite of not having that particular weakness predominantly, say of anger, when there is provocation from the outside we tend to react with that weakness.
Solution:
In order to free ourselves from weaknesses and work with the virtues within us we need to make sure we are seated on the seat of self-respect. For this we need to recognise and appreciate some speciality within us. When we are in the awareness of this speciality of ours, we will be able to stabilize ourselves in the state of our self-respect.
Self-respect increases when one learns to converse positively to the self.
Projection:The usual way to talk to the self is to talk to the most superficial aspects of the personality, those which are related to fears (including those of the future), complaints and mindless repetition of things in the past. Such talk to the self only lowers the self-respect to a great extent.
Solution:Not only when our mind is going towards waste and negative, but at all times, it is important that we talk to the mind with love, as we would talk to a child. Like a mother would lovingly explain to the child, we need to teach our mind with love. This creates true happiness within and our self-respect increases.
Change in others is possible when we change.
Projection:
When there is some misunderstanding, we normally want to change
others, trying to bring them to our way of thinking. We usually can't understand why they are not able to understand our way of thinking when we seem to be right. We are usually not able to succeed in this and we end up feeling frustrated.
Solution:
Instead of trying to force people to change their way of thinking, which is not going to work any way, we need to concentrate instead
on our own change process. As long as we are working on ourselves we will be able to be sweet to those around too. Our own change process inspires others also to work on themselves.
Success comes to the one who has a balance of being a master and a child.
Projection:
When we make a contribution in the form of an advice or a
suggestion, we usually do it with confidence. That means we are
sure of ourselves and are a master. But the problem usually comes when people don't accept our suggestion. We are, then, not able to accept their decision or criticism.Solution:
We need to have the perfect balance of being a master and a child. It means that along with being a master while giving the
suggestions we need the consciousness of a child while it is being
heard. That means we are totally ready to accept the comments/criticism that we might be faced with.
Habits are transformed when there is introversion.
Expression:
Introversion gives us the power to look within and find the source of the habit that we want to change. Instead of working at a superficial level, we will then be able to recognize and change it from deep within. When such deep transformation takes place,
we find that it never emerges again.Experience:
When we want a habit to be changed, we need to ask ourselves
why the habit is still continuing in spite of our wish to get rid of it.
Along with the recognition of the root cause of the habit,
we need to emerge the positive nature that is within us.
This gives us the confidence and we find our habits transformed.
The way to get blessings is to be open to learning.
Projection:
We do get both negative and positive situations in our life.
When we are faced with negative situations we usually expect
blessings from God or someone great by which the negativity
in our life will fully finish. But it doesn't usually happen so.
Solution:
The method to receive blessings is to go on learning from the experiences of life. To learn means never to repeat mistakes by learning from whatever has happened. This learning acts as a lift for us, which takes us forward.
To finish waste questions is to find a solution.
Expression:
When a difficult situation comes up there are waste questions in the mind either about the past or about the future. Questions like 'why did it happen like this?' or 'What will happen now?' are very common. But to keep the mind busy with waste questions is to block it from using its capability of finding solutions. On the other hand, to finish waste questions, means to keep the mind free for finding solutions.
Experience:
When I keep my mind free from waste questions, I am able to be alert and find the right answer to every problem. I have the confidence and I know that every problem has a solution. When I keep my mind in the present by freeing myself of waste questions, I am able to quickly and easily find the solution and find myself moving towards success even in all challenging situations.The difficulty of the situation lies in one's own state of mind.
Expression:
To make something big as small or to make something small as big depends on one's state of mind. When one's state of mind is good, to deal with situations becomes easy. So, even difficult situations are crossed over with great ease. Then there will be no dependency on the external situations to change the internal state of mind. That is, there will never be a reaction to external situations but there will be always stability.Expression:
When my state of mind is good and powerful, I am confident of myself and am able to easily win over all obstacles. Otherwise, the situation takes hold of the internal state of my mind and I find
myself bound by the situation. At such a time, I find the smallest
situation to a very big obstacle. But with faith in myself I am very
easily able to use my inner power to overcome situations
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The power of realisation brings permanent transformation
Expression:
To have the power of realisation means to have the power to understand what is right and to have the commitment to the right thing. So, if a mistake is committed, when there is the realisation, there is easy and permanent transformation. So the same mistake is never committed again.
Experience:
When I have the power of realisation, I will never experience
difficulty in bringing about a change, because I have actually
understood the importance of bringing about change.
Unity.
Expression:
When one suggests something and the other accepts, it gives power to the gathering. So instead of expecting others to accept suggestions, it is better to understand and provide with what the other person needs. The more something is given with generosity there is happiness for the one who is receiving and for the one who is giving. And there is power because of being together in the task.Experience:
If I take something with force I find that others give it to me only
temporarily. Instead if I give with happiness, I find that others are
able to share with me with happiness. So what I give, I find, remains with me permanently. So there is an experience of fullness and the happiness of having attained even while giving. And with this I am able to experience the power of unity, and the joy of doing things together.
Greatness lies in being humble.
Expression:
A seed grows only when it is mingled with the mud. In the same way, the one who is great is naturally humble. He understands the truth that only when there is humility will there be success. Humility gives the power to bow down without reducing one's own self-respect.Experience:
When I am humble I am able to be experience my own inner greatness, which naturally keeps me set on the seat of my self-respect. So when the situation demands, I have no problem bowing down. So I am able to allow the situations to work on me, so I am able to strengthen myself from within under all circumstances.
To work with joy is to be free from tiredness.
Expression:
When there is the happiness and joy of doing something, one can go on putting in effort even in the most difficult circumstances. For
having done everything with happiness, there will be the inner quality revealed in each and every task. The happiness within will spread around to others too.
Experience:
As I never leave my inner joy, and am constantly in touch with my
inner qualities, I am able to enjoy everything that life brings.
Nothing will then be experienced as work, but I feel everything to
be entertainment. I will be able to enjoy the richness of life even when there is something actually difficult.
To recognise one's own uniqueness is to respect oneself.
Expression:
To have respect for oneself based on other people's opinion or
situational achievements is to have respect temporarily. True respect for the self is based on the recognition of the fact that every individual is unique with its own set of unique capabilities. This understanding enables one to see one's own uniqueness without being influenced or without comparing with others.
Experience:
When I know to recognise and appreciate my own uniqueness and respect myself on this basis, I am able to be free from ego or a feeling of inferiority. I am also able to recognise naturally the uniqueness of the other person and respect him for it. Thus I am able to win the love and respect of others too.To spread the rays of happiness is to be optimistic.
Expression:
The one who is optimistic is able to spread the rays of happiness all around. Never does he stop or move back with life's challenges. On the other hand, he has the courage and determination to move on making the best out of the situation. Others too are encouraged seeing his faith.Experience:
When I am optimistic I am able to understand that there is something good that is hidden in everything that happens. I am able to enjoy seeing only this positive aspect, filling me with positivity. So my happiness spreads around and touches the lives of those around me.
Cleanliness means no waste within.
Expression:
To be totally clean means there is not a trace of negativity or waste within. Even in the most complicated situations there is clarity within. The mind is clear and clean so there is clarity in words and actions also. Every decision is taken with a clear mind and so whatever is done is naturally accurate.Experience:
When there is cleanliness in the heart, I am able to win the love of
those around me and also of God. I find that I become a mirror for
the others and they are able to see their own perfection through me. I also find that I am able to save a lot of time as I am able to see things for what they are and because there is clarity in my thoughts.
To be a leader means to invoke challenges.
Expression:
Each challenge actually brings forth some hidden strength, some latent power. The one who is able to understand this, is able to face and in fact invoke challenges. Such a person with constant and unshaken faith moves on towards victory. Such a person becomes an inspiration for many and thus is a true leader.Experience:
When I know the art of facing and learning from challenges, I am able to remain fearless in spite of the several challenges. Much more than that, I am able to actually have the courage to invoke challenges understanding the fact that challenges makes me stronger. So I am able to face challenges with great ease and enthusiasm
Truth never needs to be proved....
Expression:
When the truth of what is said is challenged, there is naturally a
protest. Words spoken after that are usually defensive and
argumentative. This leads only to waste talk and arguments
because no one is willing to listen at that time. But truth is that
which is revealed on it own and never needs to be proved.
Experience:
When I recognise the fact that I am right and am aware of this, I
never feel the need to prove it. I never argue my point but have
the self-respect of what I am. So even if I am challenged I remain
unaffected. I understand that a real diamond shines on even when
it is lying with stones or covered with dust.
